Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Lifestyle Bloggers?

Last week, Whitney of I Wore Yoga Pants did a post that I really enjoyed about the misconceptions of lifestyle bloggers that really got me thinking about the kind of blogger I am and the kind of blogger that I want to be. I suppose I am lumped into the lifestyle blog category because I am not any other kind of blogger, i.e. food, design, style, mommy, etc. I mean, I do throw out a good recipe or clothes post here or there but that is not my main focus. My main focus really is ME and my life, so therefore, I guess you have to call me a lifestyle blogger. Whitney's post was an adorable, tongue in cheek, yet truthful statement about the bad rep that lifestyle bloggers get; and it was dead on. The one that hit home with me is that people tend to think that we, the bloggers, think that our lives are perfect. Of course, I do think my life is perfect because it is perfect to ME, but I don't really have any ideas that random people out there think that I am oh so fab. I mean, I live in a small Southern town, not NYC. Nothing super interesting happens here, ever, and I'm very aware of that! Now granted, I LOVE LOVE LOVE all of my readers and followers and am so glad to have each and every one of them along on this blog ride with me, but I don't sit around thinking "Oh yes, my life is so fantastic and everyone wants to read about my trip to WalMart!" That is not what my blog is about and that is hopefully not what I'm putting out there because that's not who I am. Going along with that, however, is that on my blog, I don't always tell the "truth". I mean, yes, I tell stories truthfully, but I leave out the dirty details so maybe my blog is only positive, hearts and rainbows kind of stuff. Actually, that's what I hope I am putting out there.  My husband and I are professionals and I just don't think it's appropriate to tell the internet about our argument over which DVD to watch or every time one of us has an embarrassing moment. I mean, people google us to find our office addresses, so I don't want anything negative to take away from our professional lives. (Other people may just be braver than me or take a different approach to this dilemma, which I totally respect.) Plus, that isn't the point of my blog. I don't want to remember that we compromised and watched a comedy when I wanted to watch a chick flick, I want to remember that we had a great night in together. I do hope though, that through my blog, you see that we are just your average, every day people living our lives in our own way. In the same vein, don't like to share too much information about my friends, because I don't want them to be afraid of being themselves around me because they think what they say or do will end up on the blog. Every time we take pics one of them always says something like "Oh this is for the blog!", which I love because they are supportive and encouraging, but I don't want my blog to become a problem in my friendship. I don't think that any of this makes me a bad lifestyle blogger, I just think it makes me my own kind of blogger. I value their opinions and feelings way too much to compromise our friendship over a post. Some people tell everything, some people hold things back--it's just the way it goes. When you have a blog, it is your own and you get to say whatever you like. I know I put so much pride into mine and it is one of my favorite projects that I do. I want to do MY lifestyle blog MY way--otherwise, it wouldn't be mine! Whitney made this same point on her blog and obviously, I agree with her.
So what do you think about all of this? Are there blogging rules that people should follow? Are there blogging stereotypes out there? Discuss! Isn't that the point of blogging anyway--making friends and having discussion?  OH and don't forget to check out Whitney and the post that inspired my thoughts for today. She knows what's up, plus, she is so cute and funny! I'm sponsoring her this month, so make sure to show her some love!!

11 comments:

  1. I have only just started a blog, and I was trying to figure out what it would be about. Eventually I realised that it will be a lifestyle blog - and that is great! I don't want to be pigeon-holed. I want to post recipes, fitness information, pop culture, legal information, and I don't want to feel like readers might be put out if I don't stick to a formula.

    I love people-watching, and reading lifestyle blogs is the virtual equivalent for me.

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    1. It is totally people watching!! I love reading about moms, even though I'm not one, and cooks, since I like to try recipes, and I just like to read about other people and how they live their lives where ever they are!

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  2. I do think that the stereotype of lifestyle bloggers being self-obsessed is rather unfair...and from most of the lifestyle bloggers I've seen, untrue. I also don't understand why some people are against "happy" blogs and say they aren't realistic. My blog, like yours, is mostly talking about the good things of life. Because, for one thing, my life really is enjoyable. And for another thing, that's the way I want to remember it being, too. If I take the time to write articles about the little annoyance of my day....for one thing, I think that would be boring, and for another thing...it's giving those little annoyance way too big of a place than they deserve in my life. When something bad that is also interesting happens...like when we had a flood a couple weeks ago, I wrote about it. But most of the not-so-happy events of life aren't worth the investment of my words.

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    1. I agree with you completely! Sometimes things happen that are bad but funny--like when we had a snake in the basement! Ahh! Other times there may be a life event that is sad, but if it affects me that much, I feel like I need to talk it out. Otherwise, the mundane boring things down have a place on my blog. That's the beauty of having a blog--you do it your way!

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  3. I really prefer lifestyle bloggers because I like to get to know people! if a blog only posts recipes or whatever it bores me. I consider myself a mommy blogger with a hint of lifestyle!

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    1. I agree with you! It's nice to get to know someone via blog and to get a glimpse into how different people live their lives!

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  4. I'm still fairly new to the whole blogging thing but I'm not really sure where to put myself because I write about drama almost as much as I write about my life.

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    1. You get to be whatever kind of blogger you want to be Jillian! Go for it!

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  5. I like this. I feel the same way you do, and honestly, personal life is just that--personal. There are some juicy, interesting stories we could all tell that would definitely flood our page with readers and comments, but we don't necessarily want to put that on the Internet, open to anyone and everyone. It doesn't mean we are perfect and it doesn't mean we are candid.
    morrellfairytale.blogspot.com

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  6. I stumbled across your blog from Whitney's actually and also have to mention that your dad is my husbands lawyer! Haha, small world! Anyways I am loving everything about this post because blogging is very confusing at times and which label you fit into. I've just now begun reading more on your blog and this is one of the best posts and totally relatable! Kudos!!

    Mandy Dupree
    hellojaxon.blogspot.com

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