Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Are you a GYPSY?

Hi friends! Sorry I have been MIA. I am still recovering from our crazy trip to Texas for the Alabama v. Texas A&M game. I promise I'll get some pictures of that up soon! Work and football and outside commitments have really taken over my life--as they do every fall. I get really used to my summer schedule, which is much less demanding. We don't have as many court dates so I have lots of down time at work, plus people don't want to pay lawyers in the summer, they want to travel, so I'm not nearly as busy. Then fall hits and we get back into a regular court schedule, the clients start calling again, and I am no longer to get my posts written during the day. THEN with football, I'm in no mood to get anything done on Saturdays, of course, and that means I have to jam pack everything--cleaning, errands, etc-- into Sundays. After work, all of my meetings and things are back in full swing so I don't have as much time in the evenings. Anyway, I say all that to say, I'm sorry I've been busy lately but I'm starting to get used to the schedule again and will be back in full swing!
Today I want to talk about an article that I was circulating on Facebook last night from the Huffington Post . It was basically saying that OUR generation, Gen Y, has grown up with a sense of entitlement and that now they are unhappy because their expectations are far higher than their reality. I really want to go up to the author of this post and hug them, shake their hands, and scream SOMEONE FINALLY GETS IT! I'm so glad that the author voiced this opinion--it needed saying. They said that our generation has grown up thinking that we could do anything we wanted, we can live our dreams, fulfill our passions, and we are special. That's a good thing, I think. However, they go on to say that most of these Gen Y kids don't think that they have to WORK to achieve these dreams, to get a good job, to fulfill these passions. They just think they should be handed these things because they are who they are. I couldn't agree more. We all know people like this, right? I mean, I remember being in college and having this one girl tell me she wanted to be my roommate when we went to law school. I think we were maybe sophomores or juniors and happened to be in the same class. I didn't even get excited because said girl only talked about how often she went out, she missed class ALL the time, and she always told me that the only reason I made A's on my papers and she made C's was because I was the teacher's pet. (Let me add to this that if you turned your paper in to the teacher a week early, she would critique it, grade it, and give it back to you to make corrections. That's a guaranteed A in my book, so I did it. Did the other girl? No, never.) I knew that to get into law school you had to work hard, because you were going to have to work even harder once you were there and even harder (as evidenced by my opening paragraph) once you became a lawyer. It was just that simple to me. You have to work hard to get what you want--no matter what, no matter who you are.
Let's take my sister, Miss Alabama USA for another example. Yes, she was super lucky to be able to do well in pageants. She was lucky to be tall and slender and pretty---but, to be able to excel in that world (and it's a world, let me tell you) she had to learn what to do, how to do it. She dedicated herself to accomplishing that dream and she did--partially because of luck I'm sure, but mostly because she did everything she needed to do and well. She didn't expect to prance onto the stage in a dress and win--that's not what happens. No one knew her so there was no teacher's pet excuse. She just worked hard--for months--dedicating herself to the dream she created for herself.
Now sometimes, you can work hard and you come up short--that's life. Texas A&M can attest to that from this weekend's grueling game. Just because you want it and you work hard, doesn't mean you are going to get it. These Gen Y people don't seem to understand that either. They throw fits and tantrums, whining about how they wanted it the most and should have gotten it. Sorry sister, that's life. If you truly worked your hardest and did your very best, you should have no regrets and you can be proud of your accomplishments. Then, it's time to pick up the pieces and find a new dream and work just as hard for that one.
The rest of the article said that these GYPSYs want what they want and they want it NOW--without working for it--but they are depressed because they see their peers excelling and having things that they want. This is because of Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. I did a post in the past about how comparing yourself on social media is a bad thing, so I totally agree with that. It's easier to look at someone's posts and feel inferior. However, this should reinforce the concept of working hard--"If I want to have what they have, do what they do, etc, I need to figure out a way to achieve that". Right? Let's not whine about it, let's take action!! Instead of whining about not having what we want, why do we use that time to attempt to achieve it?
Anyway, that article clearly got me thinking and I wanted to see what your thoughts are. Are people our age too entitled? Is their perception of hard work off?
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  1. Great post. There are some people who have things handed to them on a silver platter but I believe that most people have to work really hard for what they get. You can't sit around and wait for it. And with social media now you know that so and so is rich or successful or whatever so I can also see that as a factor that it wasn't before. Not only do some expect to have things handed to them but they see other people doing well and spiral down from there.

  2. I think there are some people like that, but there are also people who are having a hard time succeeding because there are few opportunities for them. The economy in my country has made it really, really difficult for me and my family, and I was never someone who expected things to be handed to me because, well, they never were. I always knew I had to work hard to make it. I'm doing that as best I can, but it would help to have, say, a steady source of income in the form of a full-time job, whether for me or for one of my parents. I don't have that. Lots of people don't have that. I think the people who feel most unfairly entitled are the ones who do - the ones who have never had to go without.

    - Lix | A Classic Notion

  3. Hmm, I'm in Gen X and I definitely see some entitlement behavior in Gen Ys. In my profession in particular, there are those who scoff at doing "just" or "only" contract work because they expected so much more out of their career. Worse though are the contract attorneys who want to send around emails with their ideas on litigation strategy. I can't figure out what's worse, but us old-timers just keep quiet and do what we were actually paid to do, despite the derision we get from our more junior colleagues.

  4. I couldn't agree more . I feel everyone and everything's in a hurry now . Everybody wants a quick success ANYHOW (including me) . I wonder why world has become so impatient .
    Well , I must stick to this quote , good things & time come slowly.


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